As she is about to begin her freshman year Abby, protagonist of Sarah Darer Littman's Want To Go Private?, is scared. Her long time bestie, Faith, is excited. "I mean, come on, Abby. We're starting high school tomorrow. It'll be so much better than middle school." But Abby isn't buying that.
"I'm scared that things are going to change but I'm just as scared that they're going to be the same. I'm just one big lump of not being able to sleep at night, sick to my stomach, wish the summer would last forever, scared."
High school is the portal to a world of adventure, exciting experiences, and new friendships for Faith. There's a new chum, Grace, a fun new club to belong to, and even a boy with the potential to maybe be more than a friend. She really wants Abby to join her...
...but Abby, yearning for things to go back to the way they were, feels abandoned and betrayed. And home is not exactly a refuge. Her father is hardly ever home. When he's present he nags her about grades and future plans. Her mother is present and on her case. Her little sister is always stepping on her last nerve.
When she meets Luke online he feels like the soul mate, the person who finally understands her, who takes her side against everyone else, who makes her feel beautiful and wanted. Sure he has a jealous streak. Sure he gets her to do things she's not comfortable about. Sure her grades are plunging...
...but he loves her, doesn't he?
Want To Go Private is truly a relevant cautionary tale for these turbulent times.
On a purrrsonal note, Abby and I went to Harvest Moon Deli for lunch. Then I showed her around the Orono Public Library which she was very impressed by. She also met and now adores Tobago. We first got to know each other at Governors where she works and Eugene and I are regulars. When we noticed we had a lot in common we decided to get together. We both had a great time.
People need good friends along the whole life span. Some feel that making friends as adults is impossible. True it's easier in the preK to college years of easy proximity and education commonality. What it means for adults is a need for more intentionality and being open to meeting kindred souls in a variety of contexts and settings. Maybe not so easy, but it's well the effort.
Jules Hathaway
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